Many people have this misconception about divorce, in that they think there is no way to complete a divorce without it being a drawn out, upsetting and stressful affair. This is the way divorce is portrayed, but it doesn't have to be this way -- even if some divorces do go down this road.
Divorce mediation is a different option for splitting spouses, one that can offer them a more cost-effective way to legally end their marriage. During mediation, the spouses agree to see one person that helps them through the divorce process; as opposed to each spouse hiring their own attorney and dueling it out in court.
When you choose to go the mediation route, though, you have to realize that there will be an initial consultation with your mediator, and that this discussion will involve many divisive and crucial topics. This needs to be done so that your mediator can effectively handle the discussions that will be had at a later date.
Those discussions certainly could get heated between you and your soon-to-be-former spouse. But there is a distinct reason to allow this: you and your spouse get a chance to get some frustration off of your mind, and with that stress out of your system, it can better facilitate problem-solving and negotiation. Your mediator will be there to help you navigate the crucial issues, while also providing you with some helpful insight into how the matter at hand could impact you.
The mediator is impartial. He or she will simply try to aid the couple in getting through their divorce in a timely, cost-effective and sane way so that both spouses can move past this chapter in their lives and, hopefully, on to greener pastures.