Summer is for many Butler County residents the best time of year. Vacations, barbeques, outdoor parties, trips and more are on the horizon as summer nears.
For those parents who face going through a divorce over the coming months, thoughts are likely to focus on disagreements over child custody and property division than on summertime fun.
A New Jersey family law attorney and Huffington Post contributor recently wrote that one of the things that parents who face a summer divorce – or have recently gone through a divorce – sometimes put off is having a discussion about the coming holidays and vacations.
It is understandable that someone would want to delay a parenting schedule talk that is expected to include disputes, but procrastination will do you no good, he writes. Summertime drama can be reduced by talking over who is going to have the kids for the 4th of July and who is going take them on that Disney trip, etc.
The sooner that conversation takes place, the better. And it's definitely better to talk before you purchase airline tickets, theme park passes and the like, because those kinds of outlays can be non-refundable.
The lawyer also cautions parents not to give their former spouses a difficult time during these talks about vacations. If you give in to the impulse to express contempt or anger, they will likely return the favor, he notes.
Parenting schedules are often part of negotiations conducted by your attorney as you go through the divorce process. A conversation with a skilled lawyer can help you understand your rights and help you protect your children as you prepare for divorce.