There’s sometimes a very negative perception of divorce when it relates to children. Although we can agree that divorce can be more challenging when children are involved, it doesn’t mean that parents cannot find healthy and meaningful ways of interacting with their children during the process. When parents take a proactive approach and keep communication lines open with their children, children can thrive despite the split.
Parents need to understand that the divorce process can be confusing for kids and may leave them with many questions. Although parents do not need to go in depth when it comes to discussing divorce, it’s important that both individuals work as a team to explain what is happening. It’s very important that a child understands that the divorce is not his or her fault.
This confusion may lead children to act out. Be understanding and open to having a conversation whenever they need it but also know that they may not be able to communicate their feelings to you. For this reason, it may be helpful to seek out a counselor who can work with your child during and after the divorce process.
Finally, and maybe most importantly, consider the way you act. Do not fight in front of the children and do not make your child feel guilty for having a close relationship with the other parent. Just because you may have negative feelings toward your ex, doesn’t mean your children need to feel the same way. Allowing children to have a relationship with the other parent is, in many cases, in the best interest of the child.
No one said the divorce process would be easy, but if you act proactively and guide your children through the process, it can be a lot less challenging than some may assume.