People tolerate stress with varying levels of success. Divorce is one of those events in life that tests our ability to cope with stress as we try to work through often complex disagreements over property division and child custody.
Sometimes our ability to cope with stress in divorce is tested beyond what is reasonable, however, as a recent magazine article made clear. One of the women profiled in the piece said she was in the process of filing for divorce when she got a phone message from a woman who said she had been dating her husband for months -- and she wanted advice about sex.
The soon-to-be ex-wife decided to return the call. The girlfriend wanted to know if the wife had any advice on how to help the boyfriend (and husband) with some "performance" issues.
As it turned out, the girlfriend had no idea the soon-to-be ex-husband was at that point still married.
The girlfriend dumped her boyfriend the next day. And the ex-wife and ex-girlfriend became friends.
Another woman profiled in the Women's Health article said she found herself transformed when she came home to find all of his stuff had been moved out and that divorce papers were sitting on the kitchen table for her.
Unfortunately, she did not cope well with that substantial shock. She says she became "one of those crazy 'Fatal Attraction' types" and began stalking her husband.
She says she found out that he was having an affair and then began prying into as many details of their lives as possible by following them after work. She said she even opened their mail.
What she eventually learned, though, she recalled, was that the girlfriend was not superior to her. And that knowledge, earned through ill-advised behavior, was enough for her to end the stalking and move on with her own life.
There is no doubt that many people need the help and guidance of friends and family to help them get through the difficult emotions of divorce.
At the same time, an experienced family law attorney helps clients navigate the complex legal processes and difficult decisions that are a part of divorce. You can contact the Butler County Law Office of Kristen L. Campbell, LLC to schedule an appointment.