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How can I prepare for divorce mediation?

On Behalf of | Feb 8, 2018 | Divorce |

By choosing Ohio divorce mediation, you have decided to split from your current spouse in a way that can be more amicable and productive than a court proceeding. However, you may not be sure how to prepare for a mediation process. According to the Huffington Post, there are several steps you can take to make your divorce mediation a productive one.

First, the article recommends that you show up with all the relevant financial documents. This includes a list of your assets, including your financial accounts, such as checking or savings accounts or retirement funds. Other financial assets should be listed, including company equities and stocks. Physical assets should also be listed, such as vehicles, real estate you own or possess time shares in. In addition, you should bring documents that list your debts, such as student debts or current loans. Check with the mediator to see if you need to bring original documents or to see if copies will do.

You should also be ready to negotiate instead of picking a fight. Instead of reopening old wounds, consider what you want out of the mediation and focus on that. Mediation is meant to be a process that focuses on the future. Leave the past in the past. Compose a set of expectations for what you are looking for and be ready to discuss them with your mediator, who will in turn help you understand what you can realistically achieve.

Also plan your post-divorce living expenses beforehand. Think about how much money you need to live on and how much you can realistically pay in possible child support payments. Compose a budget that lists your future expenses, and base them off what you realistically expect to spend. A budget should include expenses related to vehicles, housing, household expenditures, insurance and related costs like co-pays, plus whatever you have to spend on your children. You can even contact your mediator in advance to ask for assistance.

Finally, it helps to put down your divorce concerns on a piece of paper. Don’t keep any issue off the table during a mediation. All issues are relevant, including concerns you may have about exposing your kids to a distrustful family member or whether your ex-spouse tells you about introducing your kids to a new significant other. By spelling out these concerns, you are preparing important steps for co-parenting with your former spouse in a productive fashion.

This article is intended to educate the reader about divorce mediation and is not to be taken as legal advice.



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