There has been a notable decline in divorces in the United States over the last couple of decades. This has been evident in Ohio, which had the 19th lowest divorce rate in the country in 2017 out of all 50 states. In that year, there were 2.9 divorces for every 1,000 residents.
If your marriage ends up being one of those 2.9 divorces, then it is important to go through the process maturely. Not only will this help you with your emotional state, but it will also be good for your kids. Divorce is tough on any child, no matter how old, so you need to be aware of the kids’ mental health during this tumultuous time.
Allow your kids to be emotional
Every child reacts differently to hearing the news. Some will be outwardly angry right from the start. Others will have no idea of how to react. They will retreat inward. Regardless of which camp your children fall into, you need to allow them to express themselves. They have a right to feel disappointment. You should encourage communication during this time. You may not always like what you hear, but it is vital for children to feel like they have a voice.
Make it abundantly clear you love them
It is the responsibility of both parents to be there for their children. They may have extracurricular activities happening during the divorce. Both parents should be there for those events. It is paramount to set aside your differences and realize that the most important thing is your children’s healthy development. That means you should also avoid fighting in front of your kids.
Say goodbye peacefully
Most divorces involving children will end in a shared custody arrangement. When you go to drop off your child with your ex, it is important to do so with a smile. Your children will not be able to enjoy their time with the other parent if they see you are sad without them. You need to make it clear that you are all right so they can be all right.
