The dissolution of any marriage can be difficult, but ending a long-term marriage creates emotional hurdles that are even more difficult to overcome. For those facing so-called “gray divorce” after a marriage that lasted decades, leaving negative feelings in the past is helping them obtain a new and independent life.
Say goodbye to negativity
Divorce rarely arrives without its three toxic companions: anger, fear and guilt. These feelings are only natural and no one can tell you not to have them, but clinging to them for too long can only hurt you. If these feelings are overwhelming you, getting help from a mental health practitioner may be in your best interests. For improving your mental health on a day-to-day basis, never forget to:
- Eat the right foods
- Get exercise
- Get out in the world
There is a time to mourn the passing of a broken marriage. When that period is over, it’s time to welcome a much more exciting passage—the beginning of a brand new chapter in your life.
Find an independent you
Independence comes in many forms, from financial to emotional. In the journey of ending a long-term marriage, attaining independence is often more difficult than it is after a shorter marriage ends. For decades, you had that person there to rely on. But for many, especially those now going through divorce, a dependable companionship can all too easily slide into a toxic dependence.
Break free from the past
Divorce marks a new chapter of your life, free and no longer dependent on the person you chose to part ways with. Independence is exhilarating, but getting there can be scary. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time, and you will get there. Financial issues come into play here. For some, that means budgeting, sacrificing and gaining new job skills. If this sounds difficult, remember you are working towards the goal of a happier, independent you.
Get the support you need
The emotional aspects of gaining independence are just as important. Never forget the value of a strong support network. You may no longer have a spouse to rely on, but close friends, family members and even professional help can get you through this process so you can live your best independent life.
A great divorce lawyer can also make a difference. An understanding attorney serves not only as a strong legal advocate but also as a trusted ally who truly has your best interests in mind.