Communication problems if often the reason why most marriages in Ohio fail. Given how a divorce can be contentious, things can even get worse during and after the separation. However, if you have kids or property that you will still own together after your divorce, learning how to communicate effectively is very important.
Choose a method of communication
The channel of communication you use will be dictated by several factors, including what you are comfortable with and what works best for the other person. You can communicate in person, over the phone, or through text or email. Some couples find it helpful to have set times when they check in with each other so that communication doesn’t become overwhelming.
Be clear and concise
It can be tempting to want to say everything at once when you finally have the chance to speak to your ex, but this will likely only lead to more arguments. Instead, focus on saying what you need to say and then stop. This way, you can avoid getting caught up in the emotion of the moment and saying things you might regret later.
Listen more than you speak
In any kind of relationship, effective communication is a two-way street. This means that you need to be just as willing to listen to what the other person has to say as you are to share your own thoughts. Not only will this help create a more productive conversation during and after divorce, but it will also show the other person that you respect their opinion.
Set boundaries
It’s also important to set boundaries in terms of what you are willing to discuss and when. Let the other person know if certain topics are too painful or difficult for you to talk about. Likewise, if you need some time to calm down after an argument, don’t hesitate to say so. Setting these kinds of boundaries can help keep communication respectful and constructive.
It’s important to note that if you are talking about something serious, like your children’s welfare or properties, it’s best to have them in writing and signed by both parties, so there is no misunderstanding later on. If you absolutely can’t come to an agreement, it might be necessary to seek out mediation or arbitration to help resolve the issue.
