So many things can be simplified. From recipes to math and from finances to clutter around the house, simplification can often make matters easier to deal with and life more pleasant. Even divorce can be simplified.
It's not a word used much in poetry or song. "Equitable" isn't a word found in epitaphs or love letters, but it is nevertheless a powerful word that describes an important component of Ohio divorce law.
He was within hailing distance of the 30th anniversary of his wedding when the marriage was officially, legally declared ended. After 27 years of marriage, a man who advises people on their financial lives found himself divorced.
It's a little over a three-hour drive from Hamilton to Canton, Ohio. For a divorced person, it might be the worst form of torture to have to endure that ride with their former spouse.
Once in a great while, the Hamilton Journal-News will have on its pages an article about someone who gets hit as they try to drive across railroad tracks. People might wonder what the person was thinking. Why did they try to cross with a train so near? Well, it seems likely that in many cases, they never heard or saw the train coming.
About 40 miles northeast of Hamilton, an Ohio man sells his services as a life coach to individuals and companies. He says on his website that his goal is to help people reengage in life, reduce their stress and increase their energy. He wants to "illuminate blind spots, and foster shifts in thinking" in his clients.
We all remember the grade school lesson about equality: "All men are created equal," it says in the Declaration of Independence. Abraham Lincoln repeated the phrase in his Gettysburg Address. Thomas Jefferson wrote about equal rights and the Supreme Court had chiseled on the front of its imposing building the famous phrase "equal justice under the law."
People get divorced for many reasons, but perhaps one of the most emotionally fraught is infidelity. More spouses throughout the country are currently feeling the sting of cheating after hackers leaked the personal information of 37 million alleged users of Ashley Madison, the extramarital dating service.
Property division is a very delicate matter in divorce. Some states follow community property laws, which divide property into two categories (community and separate property). Other states, such as Ohio, follow equitable distribution. This way of dealing with property division says that a judge decides what is "equitable" for the splitting couples. Note that this doesn't mean "equal" or "fair." One spouse may get far more assets and/or property than the other spouse simply because the judge finds it to be "equitable."
About a month ago, we wrote a post about prenuptial agreements. More specifically, we wrote about how there are certain things you can, and certain things you can't, include in the prenuptial agreement. But there is another important matter to consider about the prenup beyond just "getting a prenup" and "what can I include in the prenup."